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Cake day: July 12th, 2023

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  • Find some volunteering group, you’ll get tradition, community and being part of something bigger, prolly not the music though. Where I am we are big into Emergency services, they are mostly run by volunteers but really you can find whatever works for you from animal shelters to helping people with personal finance if that’s your niche. , No need to waste time idolatring an imaginary friend that doesn’t reciprocate, you can do some actual good and feel good!



  • I know you weren’t, which is even more frustraring because we want the same things and the only reason I’m engaging :)

    Most of the rest of the western countries absolutely are oligarchies designed to maximise profits for a handful of people, some more than others, sometimes a good government happens for a cycle or two and then bad ones for a while. Doesn’t mean people can’t demand change and sometimes, not always, obtain it.


  • Don’t be sorry, its all good I’ll go to sleep knowing that it’s pretty unlikely I’ll get shot when out shopping, and if it happens my hospital fees are free. And while away from work, my employer keeps paying my wages because I’m on sick leave, which doesn’t impact my holidays balance because PTO and sick leave are separate.

    Unfortunately what worked everywhere else in the Western world for a vast amount of issues clearly can’t work in the US because reasons. OK.


  • Mentioned her before in this thread,before we went down another rabbit hole of impossible / not realistic to change tour constitution. Wasn’t my intention to discuss constitution amendments, we ended up there after I pointed out that discussions about tipping (and universal healthcare, gun control etc etc) always end up in someone bringing up some reasons why bUT that workeD everywhere eLSe oN thE PlaNet but It Can’t worK Here becAuse blah blah.

    I mentioned her not in relation to constitution amendments nor gun control (nor tipping, which ia where we started) just because she didn’t make up excuses about, too hard, unrealistic all the other blah blah I keep hearing here about all the issues the US have




  • Wrong Australia was able to get rid of guns because everyone was shocked about what happened with a mass shooting, had the right to bear firearms been enshrined in the constitution there would have been a discussion about making a change to it, hasn’t the American constitution ever been amended? Any more reasons why changes can’t happen there? You guys fucking overcame slavery and black people managed to get equal rights (I am sure a few naysayers in the sixties were sceptical about that). Give yourselves more credit


  • Is it fair for the servers not to be paid by their employers?

    I’m at a loss mate. I’m having these conversations here on lemmy about us-unique problems that have pretty straightforward solutions (and note that I am not saying easy, but pretty obvious how there is one way to fix them, and pretty much one way only). All I hear back is weird stuff, of course it’s not fair to be paid different by locals than non locals but how did we even get down this rabbit hole? Everyone here seems to agree that tipping is stupid, that servers should unionise or at least ask for better treatment. Wtf, did Rosa Parker spend time arguing about how black people in some state had it worse than other states?

    The same seems to happen when discussing about gun control. Not easy, what worked in other countries like Australia wouldn’t work here. But we need guns to defend ourselves from gun nuts. What about trans women that need to defend themselves (a real convo I had with someone, probably still in my comments history).

    You know what? In other countries waiters are paid minimum wages, we barely suffer from tips issues, have universal healthcare, guns are pretty hard to obtain, mass shooting are a once in a century issue, our kids don’t do drills at school or have to go through metal detectors, white collar jobs have paid sick leave on top of 20-35 holidays days a year and if you need to fight nazis you can hit them with a reo bar. I’m not bragging, it’s sad to see how bad the US has it and even when discussing with people that agree in general with you (you seem to be in favour of unions etc) there’s always an obstacle or something that “non Americans don’t understand”, as i said in other comments you can wait for politicians or your employer to give you more rights or money but that rarely (never?) works.



  • How would people remember what or whether to tip in each state?

    Maybe not in each state but maybe in the one they reside, where it’s most likely they’ll go out eating? I’m not familiar with at will employment in the us but you seem to imply it’s inly in some states. What about the others.

    And in the end, doesnt really matter how difficult it is for service workers to fight for those rights, no one else is going to do it for them which was my original point. What i do know is that the US has a history of people standing up and fighting for rights, it being difficult hasnt stopped others before.




  • Yes and no. It’s a vicious circle, why would an employer, the owner, start paying a proper salary if they dont have to, no one else does, and they would probably go out of business by doing so?

    At some point the player needs to put the foot down and start making demands. Few rights were handed out for free throughout history, usually someone need to wake up and start fighting for them.

    The US has some catch up to do, its not only waiters. White-collar folks could do better too… I’ve (Europe/Australia) heard from too many American colleagues and managers that they wished they also had paid sick leave, parental leave, so much PTO, and long service leave (look it up, an Australian thing, a few extra weeks off after a few years of service, hoe many depends on the state you live in).