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  • I wonder if there is a fragment of a good idea in there. Maybe a dating app that like queues up men and doesn’t let the next one out of the queue until the active person gets matched to someone.

    Though that sounds pretty slow and not enough dopamine in using the app to keep people on it.

    Maybe not a single man, but some small amount so it is known that you can’t just screen for the 1% of dream guys. Like if you only get 5 swipes, maybe you won’t be as ready to dismiss everyone immediately.

    Whatever, I’m sure there are teams of psychologists working for all those companies that have all this crap dialed in for max profit and engagement.


  • GaMEChld@lemmy.worldtoLemmy Shitpost@lemmy.worldWinning
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    That’s just self sabotage talking. Knowing about a problem is step one and it’s what gets you in the door.

    Just because you know you’ve got a broken pipe doesn’t mean you don’t need a plumber, just because you know your car is broken doesn’t mean you don’t need a mechanic, etc. There’s nothing wrong with someone helping you being a job. That doesn’t mean they won’t do that job.

    The main point of therapy is to get you to look at your circumstances in different ways and provide you with coping skills you may not necessarily have developed. You may even be unaware of whatever current maladaptive coping mechanisms you’ve built up over years of just trying to survive. This is where outside professional perspective comes in handy.

    However! That’s not to say therapy is a bulletproof process or that all therapists are good or that every therapist is a good fit for every person. I would liken it to finding your preferred barber or massage therapist or something. Sometimes you just got to try options till something works.









  • I too have ADHD and am impatient (combined type, severe). Impatience is not an excuse for financial illiteracy. And a graduated income tax is not complicated. Deductions, credits, exceptions, etc are where it gets complicated. But if he thinks he’s losing money by making more money, then he’s stupid.

    Reading your other responses, you’re right. Not knowing something doesn’t make someone stupid. Refusing to learn something when you find out you don’t know it, that’s what makes someone stupid. Willful ignorance is stupid.

    At the very least, he should just admit he knows nothing about it and just take your word for it. Deferring to others expertise in areas you are weak is smart.