Dusty Farr is fighting for his transgender daughter’s right to use the girls’ bathroom at her Missouri high school.
Before his transgender daughter was suspended after using the girls’ bathroom at her Missouri high school. Before the bullying and the suicide attempts. Before she dropped out.
Before all that, Dusty Farr was — in his own words — “a full-on bigot.” By which he meant that he was eager to steer clear of anyone LGBTQ+.
Now, though, after everything, he says he wouldn’t much care if his 16-year-old daughter — and he proudly calls her that — told him she was an alien. Because she is alive.
“When it was my child, it just flipped a switch,” says Farr, who is suing the Platte County School District on Kansas City’s outskirts. “And it was like a wake-up.”
Farr has found himself in an unlikely role: fighting bathroom bans that have proliferated at the state and local level in recent years. But Farr is not so unusual, says his attorney, Gillian Ruddy Wilcox of the American Civil Liberties Union of Missouri.
“When it was my child, it just flipped a switch,” says Farr, who is suing the Platte County School District on Kansas City’s outskirts. “And it was like a wake-up.”
I’m really happy for his daughter to have the support of her father like this, but it disgusts me that people like him don’t understand bigotry until it happens to someone they care about. And there are so many millions like him who will never encounter it happening to anyone they care about.
Even worse are the people who don’t care when it happens to people they care about - they care about their hatred more.
Yeah this isn’t heartwarming at all. I feel sorry for people like him.
A critical lack of empathy.
I think this whole bathroom thing is just stupid. While I don’t really care who is shitting in the stall next to me, apparently some people do, but I think there’s a pretty simple solution: replace stalls with water closets. I mean, nobody likes the stalls. No one prefers them, and the total lack of privacy they provide is why bathrooms are gendered in the first place. Replace stalls with water closets, everyone gets their privacy, bathrooms don’t have to be gendered anymore, problem solved.
This is a logical compromise that seemingly stopped the issue at its source, I would be fine with this change personally. But i guarantee it will not shut them up, because at the end of the day it not about privacy it’s about keeping things the same because “things worked just fine before all this trans stuff started happening” and any change is therefore a loss for their side
But i guarantee it will not shut them up,
You are correct. This has been a thing in the UK where self contained toilets are quite common and the transphobes just make up some shit about how if they let men in use the same ones as women, then they can sneak hidden cameras in there. So they have tried to force places that have always used these toilets, for practical reasons, not even inclusively reasons, to designate seperate male and female toilets.
Since conservatism has run out of governing ideas all they have are wedges - anything to get the workers to fight each other instead of focusing their anger on the rich.
If it’s not toilets they’ll think of something else, like stopping transpeople (and eventually women) from teaching in schools. Iran already blocks people of certain religions doing so, so this is not unimaginable.
I took my parents to this restaurant that has all gender bathrooms. They were weirded out till they saw it was literally a hallway with doors to private, individual bathroom stalls with a toilet and sink. It’s been drilled into them that all gender bathrooms are just a big open piss room where everyone whips out their bits in front of each other
Just use mixed gender bathrooms for everyone. We have them here and they seem to work mostly well.
Ah yes, another classic example of “its bad until it personally affected me, only then did i realize other people exist and have feelings”
At least he went that route instead of other bigoted parents who actively drive their kids to self-harm/suicide and never learn this lesson.
Still a self centered piece of shit, just cause he suddenly aligns with whats good in society doesnt change that.
Next time a self centered piece of shit wind blows, his sails will catch and blow back t owards his self centered piece of shitness again.
Ah yes, because everybody once they reach the age of 18 have their entire personality set in stone never to change again for the rest of their lives.
Maybe we should just drop him in a volcano because he admitted that at one point he was anti-LGBTQ? What then is the point in even trying to convince others to change their ways if we’re only going to ostracize them based on their previous worldview?
I’m not crying you’re… nah I’m crying.
I really don’t care what it takes for people to finally open their eyes and minds as long as it happens. This father could’ve very easily not accepted his daughter, but he did. Not only did he accept his daughter, he admitted to himself that he was wrong his entire life. It doesn’t matter how he was in the past, we should not judge him for it. He knows what he did and who he was, he will beat himself up over it enough and doesn’t need anyone else to help him with that. We should celebrate this man.
People who have awakenings like that later in life are very valuable allies. They can speak to segments of the population that we can’t and I am very happy to have someone like him on our side.
Same. It’s unbelievably frustrating that there are so many people who don’t care until it impacts their lives, but there are also plenty of trans kids who end up closeted, homeless, or dead because their families won’t change no matter what. I’ll take this guy supporting his kid over that any day. I want people to know that changing their mind is good and welcome. Hopefully that’ll make it more likely and more kids will be safe.
I agree, it is incredibly frustrating but people learn at different paces and in different ways. Some people can only learn from hands-on learning and first-hand experiences.
Rooting for them. Hopefully his daughter can tell him about what that punisher hat means in day to day life.
That corrupt people using positions of power to harm others should be brutally murdered in the streets? That’s what I got from the books. Maybe most people who use that symbol have read different books though, they do seem to have gotten a different message.
Yep, it has strayed wildly to very a libertarian icon. Punish the oppressed. For those who don’t know, it is essentially a white supremacy dogwhistle now. It sits alongside the Gasden flag and the thin blue line in lieu of the Nazi flag and or the confederacy cowards flag.
“Heroic man stops being a bigot when something affects him personally”.
Stunning and brave.
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Thumbnail pic makes it look like she has a weird flattop/mullet haircut going on lol
It’s just a strand of hair getting swept back by the wind, though
This is not a feel-good story. Stop clapping when evil stops being evil. It has now accomplished the bare minimum, and sort of for incorrect reasons.
