• finitebanjo@lemmy.world
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    7 days ago

    Me, a German, a Trinidadian, and an American are in a discord server and sometimes we play PC games on weekends, everybody who clears the server rules is welcome to join:

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    7 days ago
    1. Have hobbies, interests, or work that interests you, which can be done with other people.
    2. Search for groups, spaces, or jobs in your area that do those things. If none exist, make a group/space and advertise it somehow.
    3. Consistently attend regularly scheduled gatherings.
    4. Talk about things other than the thing sometimes when you get together.
    5. Do this for a while. You now have friends.

    Note that this works best when the activity requires some kind of teamwork, group effort, communication, or shared work/suffering.

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    7 days ago

    The trick to breaking this cycle is to suggest a time to hang when you first propose the idea. This makes it far more likely to actually happen I find.

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      7 days ago

      For real. It’s so frustrating how someone will just text “let’s hang out” or “let’s play games tonight” and it’s always me who has to go the extra step of “OK sure how about 7?”