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“Traditional” meaning “the last 2,000 out of 300,000 years”… Not to mention how it was only the norm because it was forced thru powerful organizations and not everyone just choosing it.
Monogamy and Abrhamic values are nothing but a fad on the timeline of human existence.
We ain’t built for that shit. Some people are and that’s fine, some aren’t and that’s cool too.
There’s a reason we’re not all built the same.
Abraham himself wasn’t monogamous.
It’s almost like everything in nature is random
Less random and more “shotgun approach”.
Can’t speak for anyone else but I will never do an open relationship. Either you are with me or you aren’t. Your choice.
It’s only risky business if your relationship is defined by sex. People who would stay together even without the sex (because they like each other that much anyway) are generally going to be fine.
My wife and I have been poly from the start of our relationship and it’s been great. That said we’ve also long held a commitment to healthy emotional management
How do people have the free time to have multiple relationships? It sounds exhausting.
Let alone having A relationship. I still have to sort my own baggages before I enter into one.
Oh young people.
The silents and boomers tried this crap too.
Raised a generation of angry Gen-X kids through weekend visitation rights.
I had very few friends whose parents hadn’t been divorced from some form of this (cheating or swapping).
Some couples survived but the marriages were strained.
I’m not going to judge people who try open relationships, but I’ve literally never seen them work. It’s also nothing new. Swingers were a thing decades ago. I’ve seen marriages implode, people end up needing therapy, and the like. I have a friend who is poly and has multiple people in her relationship group. She tried to tell me “how great it is” and then the next day I hear about the latest group drama. I’m like “yeah fuck that noise”.
It’s kind of like communism. I love the idea of communism. Equality for everybody and everybody has an equal say in the means of production. However, it only takes one prick not pulling their weight on purpose to abuse the system and it all comes crumbling down, which is why so many communist countries have a dictator forcing everyone to “be equal”.
The same is true of open relationships. It only takes one possessive or damaged person to blow up the whole group. The weakest link in most things is the fact that some people fucking suck.
I mean, I’ve seen a lot of monogamous relationships fail too.
Not denying that. Monogamy between incompatible partners who don’t communicate happens all the time.
Somehow, the traditional model makes the rich richer, and that’s why they push it so hard. That’s all I know.
Why do people want so badly to have their government legally recognize their relationship? The legal contract does nothing but make it harder to separate when the relationship runs its course, whenever that may be. Have the ceremony, go on the honeymoon, get “married” but don’t include a legal contract in it. You don’t need it.
Primarily administrative privileges, at least from a practical standpoint.
It can be done without declaring it a marriage legally, with wills, medical proxies, etc. if you prefer granular control.
I just want my partner to not go through the nightmare of probate court and legal headaches should something happen to me, or be able to see me in the hospital without pushback. If one piece of paper covers 90% of that then I’m reasonably willing to sign it. On the flip side of that, I hate weddings and would prefer to spend that money on a more material investment lol
Everyone is different though, and there should be alternative options that aren’t such a huge hassle, so I do agree with you.
I went through the process of doing the wills and trusts stuff with my GF and it was about $500.
A marriage license is like $60.
Being hopeless romantics we did both.
You don’t need it.
Actually, you kind of do for all kinds of things.
My cousin and his wife did this and then one day my cousin and their new girlfriend dumped his wife
If you’re not exclusive you’re fuckbuddies. Maybe it’ll stick, or eventually something better comes along for either. Then it ends.
Tomorrow we will cover how to determine whether you are being hit on by gays.
Casual hookups have always been a thing, why pretend they are a relationship?
